marriage with a dog and a cat

this week, i've really been running into a problem... i feel that i'm not getting the affection that i need. i don't feel completely loved. it's really causing Chase and me to get into alot of fights. i can't say that it's anything that i've been doing or not been doing, but i feel like Chase is really stepping away from me. i honestly don't know what to do.

Chase keeps asking me what he needs to do when i get my feelings hurt... and i keep telling him the same thing... it's the way that you say things. the right or wrong choice of words is everything. "i wanna be alone right now" or "i need a little bit of time to myself to sort out some things." 

so, right now, i'm trying to keep my distance from Chase in a one bedroom apartment... it's kinda difficult. 

I need affection like a dog. Chase needs affection like a cat. one scratch on the belly just isn't enough. makes me hungry for more, like my affection meter is never on 'F.' the occasional scratch behind the ear is really nice, but i miss it alot. i feel like i have to practically beg for his appreciation. Chase: he's way independent and doesn't need affection like i do. he is like, "okay, you scratched my head for 2 minutes. that's enough for this month."

sorry about the cat and dog analogy... but it's the only way that i know how to describe us. i try to give and give, but somehow, the efforts never yield a good harvest. lately, it's completely lacking.

marriage is hard.